Internet Accountability Software
A hammer can be use to build or to demolish. Like any tool the internet can and has been used for kingdom efforts that glorify God, but so often this tool has been used to utterly decimate the lives of men who have been trapped in the bondage of internet porn.
The good news is that no matter how "bad it is" there is hope in the life changing power of Jesus Christ. Though our ope is ultimately not in tools or fences like accountability software these can be used by God as enormous blessings to help us in our fight for sexual purity.
Right now there is one accountability software product that I recommend. I have provided the link below to the website for more information and quick download. If you have any specific questions feel free to contact me. When i wrote this there was a single monthly fee and you can load the software on any of your family's devices. Very cool!
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software: "It's all about the conversation."
The good news is that no matter how "bad it is" there is hope in the life changing power of Jesus Christ. Though our ope is ultimately not in tools or fences like accountability software these can be used by God as enormous blessings to help us in our fight for sexual purity.
Right now there is one accountability software product that I recommend. I have provided the link below to the website for more information and quick download. If you have any specific questions feel free to contact me. When i wrote this there was a single monthly fee and you can load the software on any of your family's devices. Very cool!
Covenant Eyes Accountability Software: "It's all about the conversation."
Online Bible Study
The key to breaking any addiction is a growing love for God and desire to glorify Him that pushes out our desires for our lusts and idols. It is therefore vital that we cultivate a daily and deep habit of feasting on God's word which is spiritual nourishment. "The way of purity" is an online Bible Study provided by the "Setting captives Free" ministry that has proven time and time again that when united to a heart that truly desires to honor Christ, freedom is possible.
This course brings vital biblical truths regarding our motivations and the promises that God has for his people to bear in the area of our lusts.
If you or your son are struggling, this course in addition to good accountability software (above) are a must.
The way of Purity online study
The way of purity online study for teens
This course brings vital biblical truths regarding our motivations and the promises that God has for his people to bear in the area of our lusts.
If you or your son are struggling, this course in addition to good accountability software (above) are a must.
The way of Purity online study
The way of purity online study for teens
Some helpful memory verses to battle lust
The battle for sexual purity is can certainly seem impossible at times. Often, however, we fail because we don't take advantage of those means that God has made available to us. When Jesus was tempted in the dessert it is important to note that it was his love for and familiarity with the Word of His father that ultimately won the battle and caused the devil to flee. If we seek to see victory over sin then knowing God's word and hiding it in our heart in such a way that it comes out reflexively when temptation appears is absolutely vital. here are just a few verses that I have found helpful. I printed these out and placed them in conspicuous places where I would see them. i then picked a few to commit to memory that were particularly relevant and powerful to me.
Open the PDF and print it out
Open the PDF and print it out
Biblical principles regarding masturbation
Masturbation is one of the most common areas of sexual confusion especially for men. Whether a young man finds out about masturbation through pornography, a perverted little friend, or just discovers that little surprise on his own, it often becomes a source of confusion, struggle, and addiction.
A number of years ago I was asked by a young man struggling with this common practice what I thought the Bible had to say about the subject. So what you see here is my attempt to apply biblical principles to this important issue.
Read the letter
A number of years ago I was asked by a young man struggling with this common practice what I thought the Bible had to say about the subject. So what you see here is my attempt to apply biblical principles to this important issue.
Read the letter
The Spectrum Of Biblical Relationships
God designed us to want girls and designed girls to be built in such a way that we should want to want them. But the same God who designed these tasty treats also gives us principles for how to take a friendship into that wonderfully turbulent waters of romance. But Christians have been doing relationships like the non-Christians for decades now, adopting worldly methods and attitudes, instead of acting like Christians. The result is that our relationships and marriages are just as drama filled, broken, unfulfilling and terminal as the non-Christians around us. This is not because God designed relationships this way. We have been failing because we have not been pursuing romance according to the principles that God has established.
This document is NOT a "how to" on christian dating, nor is it a detailed schematic for the process of courtship. It is an attempt to identify at a set of Biblical principles that are so powerful and flexible that they can be just as effective 4000 years ago in Canaan as they can be today in California. When we honestly asses ourselves and our potential relationships in light of these principles it can be very powerful in helping us to determine if we are even ready for a relationship as well as where our relationships need to change to better glorify God.
View the Relationship Spectrum
This document is NOT a "how to" on christian dating, nor is it a detailed schematic for the process of courtship. It is an attempt to identify at a set of Biblical principles that are so powerful and flexible that they can be just as effective 4000 years ago in Canaan as they can be today in California. When we honestly asses ourselves and our potential relationships in light of these principles it can be very powerful in helping us to determine if we are even ready for a relationship as well as where our relationships need to change to better glorify God.
View the Relationship Spectrum
When they confess or are caught what should you say?
Sometimes our son's come to us to confess their sin. Can you imagine the impressive amount of courage it takes to push past the embarrassment, shame, fear, and risk they feel as they do so? More often than not they get caught. And almost as often they are happy that they finally did get caught.
But what do you do now? The uncomfortable truth is swinging there in the wind and you need to say something. I have provided a letter that i wrote to a young man after he mustered up the courage to tell me about his struggle with pornography and masturbation. We also discussed his longtime effort to develop good habits in bible reading and prayer.
This is not a "how to" lesson but I hope that you will learn some helpful ways to approach the conversation. My approach is not anger and guilt. I don't think that that is effective nor ultimately is it a biblical approach. He already hated his sin and felt the burden of it so there was no need for me to lay more guilt bricks on his back. What he needed was to hear the beautiful good news of Gospel Grace and to have seeds of hope planted in his heart. That was my goal.
In the letter you will also see some very specific questions that are good to ask your sons about their struggle with lust, especially if they have fallen into bad habits in this important area.
Take a look at the letter...
But what do you do now? The uncomfortable truth is swinging there in the wind and you need to say something. I have provided a letter that i wrote to a young man after he mustered up the courage to tell me about his struggle with pornography and masturbation. We also discussed his longtime effort to develop good habits in bible reading and prayer.
This is not a "how to" lesson but I hope that you will learn some helpful ways to approach the conversation. My approach is not anger and guilt. I don't think that that is effective nor ultimately is it a biblical approach. He already hated his sin and felt the burden of it so there was no need for me to lay more guilt bricks on his back. What he needed was to hear the beautiful good news of Gospel Grace and to have seeds of hope planted in his heart. That was my goal.
In the letter you will also see some very specific questions that are good to ask your sons about their struggle with lust, especially if they have fallen into bad habits in this important area.
Take a look at the letter...
What can you say when they keep falling?
What can you say when a young man seems to be struggling over and over with the same sin? On the one hand he hates it and on the other he loves it. So what kind of counsel can you give? The short answer is the answer that we should always turn to: The Gospel. For those of us that have forgotten let me remind you, this means "good news." Good news is not the same as excusing sin but it also does not mean loading a boat load of guilt and shame on the back of a young man or woman already burdened by their sin. Fortunately the Gospel is simple enough to be grasped by a small child but is also vast and deep enough to provide a pool of resources to prevent you from needing to become a broken one dimensional record.
Here's a link to a letter I wrote a young man struggling with lust and who had fallen once again. My hope in this letter was to remind him of the grace of God as well as the significance of the sin that he continued to turn to using some analogies that I thought might be helpful. I hope you find the letter helpful as well.
Take a look at the letter ...
Here's a link to a letter I wrote a young man struggling with lust and who had fallen once again. My hope in this letter was to remind him of the grace of God as well as the significance of the sin that he continued to turn to using some analogies that I thought might be helpful. I hope you find the letter helpful as well.
Take a look at the letter ...
Book Recommendation: Courage to Flee
I feel very comfortable recommending this book. It is a great book to read particularly with an older boy or young man as you seek to prepare him to understand the battle with lust that he will inevitably face. It is not graphic though he is candid and makes his case soundly standing on the word of God. There are some great nuggets of wisdom in this short little work. If you are wondering where to start in your discussions with your son about sexual purity this is a great place to start.
Read more about the book
Read more about the book
